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Mind set: Why you should forgive

2008-06-28T23:24:00.000-07:00

I came across this very insightful article.Hope this helps.

Have you ever forgiven anyone? You may quickly say ‘Yes’ , which indicates you still remember the issue, which means it is not totally forgotten...and so therefore, it is not truly forgiven.

We say we forgive, but we rarely do. We ‘excuse’, we ‘permit’ , we ‘look past’ , we ‘understand’ , we ‘learn to live with’ , but we never really forgive. We simply exchange our dislike of an event with the hope of returning to more pleasant times. What then, would you have to do to forgive? Is it possible to forgive while not totally forgetting the problem that created the reason for forgiveness in the first place? How do you forgive? How do I forgive?

To understand why total forgiveness seems almost impossible, or at least, very difficult, we need to ask why we value the concept of forgiveness in the first place. We need to look at what motivates us to either run from it or embrace it depending upon which end of the problem we see ourselves in. Let’s tear apart the whole concept of forgiveness and look at it the way it is.

What triggers the need to forgive or to be forgiven? Having done something wrong, you will experience the sensation of guilt. It might not happen immediately and it may take some time, but once you have done something wrong, the door is open for you to eventually feel guilty about it. The understanding of guilt is totally necessary for you to be on either side of the forgiving exchange. Now, having embraced the concepts of doing a ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ thing and then associating them with guilt, this opens the door for multiple levels of forgiveness to exist. For example, once the wrong deed has occurred , an opportunity suddenly appears for somebody to forgive you, and you can also forgive yourself.

What triggers the sensation of guilt? Somewhere, we were taught that certain things were ‘right’ and certain things were ‘wrong’. Later, we then create connections to events we experience and use our past examples of right and wrong to inform us of whether our actions or the actions of the people around us are proper. In time, we can easily see who has done something wrong and we know they are guilty and should admit to their crime and admit they are guilty. This then opens the door for us to forgive them and for them to forgive themselves.

Our society and many religious structures look upon guilt as a mighty and necessary force that is used to help us maintain an orderly society. It can be difficult seeing how our world could exist without us taking turns being either the receiver or the distributor of guilt. What else could possibly motivate anyone to change? What if you were taught about right and wrong, in error? Imagine being in a country where it is ‘wrong’ for a woman to show her face in public. Imagine a situation where it is ‘wrong’ to cross the boundary from one country to another when you are not welcome.

Imagine a moment where it is ‘wrong’ to kill another person. Imagine a moment where it is ‘wrong’ to purposely exceed the speed limit while driving. Imagine being in a country where it is ‘not wrong’ for a woman to show her face in public. Imagine a situation where it is ‘not wrong’ to cross the boundary from one country to another because you are welcome. Imagine a moment where it is ‘not wrong’ to kill another person who is attacking you. Imagine a moment where it is ‘not wrong’ to purposely exceed the speed limit while driving, so that lives may be saved.

These examples clearly show how something that is ‘wrong’ in one instance , is ‘not wrong’ in another instance , which means our concepts of right and wrong are not based upon any specific truth, but solely upon the perception of the moment. With this being the case, ‘being right’ or ‘being wrong’ are totally transient in the eye of the beholder and have no absolute state of being. Truth is eternal and unchangeable, so from an eternal and unchangeable spiritual point of view, this means the whole concept of right and wrong is not real and simply does not exist.

What if you never did anything wrong? If the concept of ‘right and wrong’ is not a solid spiritual truth, since they change with perception, then these concepts are neither seen, nor experienced and they aren’t true. When we say somebody is wrong we are viewing things from an extremely narrow and erroneous perception.

So, if there is nothing ‘wrong’ with killing, should we just let the world run amok with violence and terror and do nothing to stop it? In a perfect world, you would not fear that you had to stop it, but likewise, in a perfect world, the concept of ‘wrong’ or ‘fear’ would not exist in the first place and no threats would be perceived . To understand the concept it would be helpful to see that all improper behaviour and events are mistakes that occur due to our perception of an act.

Instead of using the perception tainted variables of to judge ourselves and others, let’s instead look at improper events simply as ‘mistakes’ . For example, if I were on a train to Philadelphia and happened to mention to a fellow passenger about how excited I was to be heading for Chicago, it would be obvious to this man that I had made a mistake and had gotten on the improper train. This does not make me bad. This does not require any sensation of guilt and this does not require forgiveness .

All this requires is that I get off that train and get on the proper train. When the fellow passenger informs me of my mistake, he has not judged me, but is simply informing me of an error I have made. Since I have done nothing wrong, there is no reason to associate guilt or fear with what he tells me. Being open for truth, I will not feel attacked and I will feel no need to defend my mistake. Instead, I will be happy and thankful to the passenger for helping me see and undo the mistake.

Truth frees because there is no judgment of any kind and it eliminates the need to be forgiven. Likewise, guilt binds because it is dependent upon judgment and it requires your need to be forgiven.

All concepts and origins of guilt, sin, right, wrong, etc, are of our own making and are based upon fear. Only our mistaken perceptions have created these concepts, which are e not true. They are simply errors of thinking.

To change your course, all you need to do is to be open to see where you may be mistaken and then and it will heal your perception of this world and of yourself. There is really nothing at all to forgive in the first place.

Foods that help fight Cancer

2008-06-26T20:51:00.000-07:00

Cancer is the most dreaded disease in today’s world. It is the one of the top causes of death or disability.

The close relationship between diet and cancer is suggested by the large variation in rates of specific cancers in different countries and by the spectacular changes observed in the incidence of cancer in migrating populations. For example, studies have shown that Asians have a 25-fold lower incidence of prostate cancer and a 10-fold lower incidence of breast cancer than inhabitants of Western countries do, but that rates of these cancers dramatically increase following migration to the West. The importance of lifestyle factors in the development of cancer was also shown in studies of mono-zygotic twins (who share all genes). Inherited genetic factors were shown to be responsible for only about 15% of all cancer cases. These observations indicate that most cancers are not of hereditary origin and that lifestyle factors, such as dietary habits, have a profound influence on their development.

Cancer is basically increase in the cellular growth inside a particular part of the body in a multitude far greater and uncontrollable than normal. Blocking the growth of tumor cells can prevent occurrence of cancer in the body.

There is now considerable evidence that the chemopreventive properties of plant-based food are related to their ability to block the progression of latent microtumours. These properties arise from the high content of phytochemicals, molecules that target several key events in the development of cancer. Intensive research conducted over the last few years has shown that phytochemicals derived from the diet interfere with tumors progression by acting directly on tumor cells as well as by modifying the tumor’s microenvironment (stroma) and creating physiologic conditions that are hostile to tumor growth.

Below I have tried to sum up some food known to prevent cancer.

Green Tea: is a "true" tea, meaning it is made solely with the leaves of Camellia sinensis, that has undergone minimal oxidation during processing. Rich in Polyphenols and other anti-oxidants, green tea has least amount of caffeine compared to black tea and coffee. Though the benefits against cancer are not academically proven, still the presence of anti-oxidants and tea being a daily consumed thing, it becomes out top choice. Having 1-2 cups of green tea instead of black tea or coffee can not only reduce your caffeine intake, but it can provide you with those invaluable anti-oxidants that you need to fight against cancer, infections, diabetes, cholesterol ,aging and many more..
Dark Chocolate: Similar to Green Tea, dark chocolate is full of anti-oxidants. You might want to include dark chocolate in your chocolate list next time when you go to Wal-Mart!
Red Wine: half glass of red wine while you dine! Red wine is not only good for your heart; it can fight against cancer as well.
Leafy greens: Deep green leafy vegetables are packed with lutein, vitamin A and folate; nutrients that may help prevent colon and ovarian cancer.

Spinach

Kale

Collard greens

Arugula

Dandelion greens

Curry: Yellow curry contains cur-cumin, a pungent spice that may help prevent melanoma and other types of cancer cells from proliferating.
Cruciferous veggies: These contain phytochemicals that may cut the risk of stomach, breast and skin cancers.

Broccoli

Broccoli sprouts

Cabbage

Bok choy

Cauliflower

Watercress

Swiss chard

Berries: These fruits contain antioxidants such as Polyphenols, which counteract and repair cell damage.

Blueberries

Blackberries

Raspberries

Strawberries

Cranberries

Red grapes

Tomatoes: Studies suggest that having a tomato-rich diet may help lower the risk of developing both lung and stomach cancer.

There are various literature available today with advices of what to eat if you already have cancer. Co-written by a licensed nutritionist and cancer survivor ,the new edition of “What to Eat If You Have Cancer” by Maureen Keane, Daniella Chace provides you with an updated overview on how cancer affects the body, as well as personalized meal plans for coping with the side effects of chemical, surgical, and radiation treatments. This revised edition includes the latest research on angiogenesis and antioxidants and using low-carbohydrate/high-protein diets during cancer treatment. New menus and recipes are also included.

It is absolutely vital that you eat properly, eat healthy and exercise regularly.

Feel free to leave a comment or contact me if you have any questions at yourdoctorneha@gmail.com.

Good luck and happy living!

Dr.Neha